A newsletter about sex, culture, and being a human. Read a few posts and you’ll get the vibe!:

I have a particular interest in people who might be misunderstood due to their sex life. Maybe it’s someone into non-monogamy. Maybe it’s a sex worker. Maybe it’s someone with a very specific kink. I enjoy telling their stories.

We know that sexual deviancy, sexual abuse, and sexual trauma all exist. It would be irresponsible of me to pretend this is not the case.

However, many people labeled as ‘sexual deviants’ are, actually, everyday folks who approach sex in ways that are not mainstream.

As a result, they often go to great lengths to learn about themselves, to learn about boundaries and consent, and to find community. If they lean into their desires safely and consensually, they usually seem (to me) quite self-aware.

These attributes all make them interesting people for me to talk to.

Do you take submissions?

Yes. You can tell me about your sexual self at my submission page.

Lately, I am leaning into Q&A series’ with folks in a specific subset of sex world. Right now the topic is non-monogamous moms and here is a Q&A example. The next topic will be announced June 2024.

I’ve been told that simply telling one’s story is cathartic. I don’t respond to every submission I receive, but I do read every one. If you’ve got a story or have an interesting sex topic to suggest, you can submit here

Who are you?

A writer. Bylines in The Atlantic, Salon, Austin American-Statesman (where I used to co-host a culture podcast) and Sex With Emily, where I'm Head of Editorial. Also — random — I’m an aerialist.

Why subscribe?

All subscribers get SUBMIT HERE in their inbox.

Everything is free for now. Eventually, paid subscribers* will get access to the full archives.

*Programming note: SUBMIT HERE will introduce paid tiers in October 2024.

How do I read new posts?

As a subscriber, every new edition of the SUBMIT HERE newsletter goes directly to your inbox. Dudes, remember to check your promotions or spam folders. Or! Get the Substack app which is pretty slick.

Anything else?

Beginner Awesomeness: Subscribe to Submit Here!

Intermediate Awesomeness: “Liking” my posts (i.e. hearting them) or commenting on them, it makes a huge difference to writers on Substack. I can’t emphasize this enough.

Advanced Awesomeness: Sharing my posts on your social media platform of choice. Sharing my posts with your friends.

Sex stuff isn’t everyone’s cup of tea…but if you’re reading this, there is a chance that it’s yours. By sharing my work, you help me and everyone who reads Submit Here build a community of non-judgmental sex positive folks. My readers tend to be open-minded, high EQ and ready to release shame around sex in general. That sounds like a pretty cool group of people to me, so if you want to help me build it, you have indeed unlocked Advanced Awesomeness.

I appreciate you being here.

Subscribe to Submit Here

Tell me everything. Human-sized stories about sex and culture, by Tolly Moseley.


Creator of SUBMIT HERE. Sex and culture writer. Bylines: The Atlantic, Salon, Sex With Emily, Austin American-Statesman.