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Beautiful interview!! I’m so glad you shared your story, Jen!

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Thank YOU for giving me the strength to, Molly!

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Thanks Molly!!!

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Another phenomenal interview, Tolly! Thank you.

Jen, I so appreciate you sharing your story. Beautifully articulated. I relate deeply:

- "I just knew that I had a lot of years ahead of me, and I felt grief for the aspects of life and parts of me that felt inaccessible."

- "I am so pleased to say that I, and my husband, have both been able to flourish as people AND as a couple, by expanding our views and openly relating with other partners."

- "I hope [my son] recognizes that parents and spouses (particularly mothers) are more than just those titles — they are whole people, and he can offer that same gift to himself and his spouse, should he have one. I have faith that in the end, he will find value in this challenge."

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It's that amazing line, isn't it? "I just knew that I had a lot of years ahead of me, and I felt grief for the aspects of life and parts of me that felt inaccessible." Thank you Lelia for commenting and for shining a light on Jen's honesty!

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Thank you so much, Lelia!

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I have to believe this conversation is the most relatable and so many monogamous couples would benefit from it- ‘I felt grief for the aspects of life and parts of me that felt inaccessible’ combined with wanting the marriage combined with the feelings of guilt. I have been there and tried to articulate the same without success. Kudos to you and your husband for growing together towards your individual truths and desires 💜

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"Relatable" is the word that keeps coming up again and again with this one! Thank you for writing so thoughtfully here Ash, I couldn't agree more about Jen's words and the way she captures this very human feeling.

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Thank you, Ashley. Your writing is incredible.

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That means the most. Thank you so much, Jen 💕

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I loved this interview! I related to so much of it, especially this line about her favorite thing about being non-monogamous: “The expansion. The ability to meet myself again and again by allowing myself to experience all that the universe brings to me, that's meant for me.”

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Right!! "The ability to meet myself again and again" got me too, and reminds me of this thing I heard of a long time ago: self-expansion theory. (There's even a Wikipedia entry on it- I just Googled!) Thanks so much for joining the convo, Kelsey!

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Same -- I'll have to check that theory out :)

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Another wonderful Q&A and such relatable responses! I enjoyed this piece so much 😊

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Thank you Tanya! In so many ways, your Q&A set the tone for these interviews. I appreciate you more than you know!

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