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Keith's avatar

Kink

Two wives over 27 years. I'm 23 years into the second, and we're still going strong.

I never really thought of it as “kink.” To me, it was always about adventure—sexual adventure—with my partner. Over time, that evolved to include others. If that's kink, then it's kink by way of shared experience, more bodies, more connection.

But not the kind with whips, chains, restraints, or pain. That’s never been our scene.

Toys? Maybe those count.

For us, it's been about joyful orgasms, wild exploration, and sometimes, delicious exhaustion.

Ecstasy? Absolutely.

That kind of kink.

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Tyrah Hutson's avatar

Beautifully written my friend. I call myself a professional lurker. I often read, but almost never comment. Whenever I’m notified of your writing, I make it a point to revel in your words. In my 49th year of life I’m finally myself more than ever. Leaning into the freedom, embracing the darkness of kink and making friends with my “goody drawer” has been one of the most liberating things in my life. Thank you for this essay, it spoke to my tortured heart.🖤

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