This is so true. What really stayed with me is the shift from wanting things to feel handcrafted and slow to wanting something even more human than that, some sign that there’s a real person meeting you back. That’s what feels alive. It’s not about polish or perfection, it’s about allowing mutual attunement so that something unscripted can happen. The Latihan moments feel almost beyond language, and that’s what made this so sexy to me. The idea that intimacy can still be fleeting, messy, co-created, and real all at once.
Loved this! I've been dabbling in Latihan since the summer and find that it is so human and so otherworldly at the same time. Sitting in that paradox is mesmerizing and quite compelling.
I think a lot about gaining comfort with uncertainty, but it had never occurred to me to actively seek it out in this way; to crave uncertainty in a world that is performatively offering false certainty in every imaginable flavor.
I loved this Tolly. I’m fullllly in on humancore. How can real human difference and nuance and FRICTION not be rewarding and SEXY after noticing the emptiness of availability and amenability of the artificial. And Latihan sounds like the perfect metaphor for the moment. Blinded, moving cautiously, ready for connection. (Also, I’m obsessed with the “spontaneity is sexy and spiritual,” idea because yes.)
And, I found it so fascinating to think about the ideological overlap of clean girls and incels. Smart! I get it.
Where can we broadcast this?! I loved how you taken to Latihan.
THANK YOU PAIGE!
This is so true. What really stayed with me is the shift from wanting things to feel handcrafted and slow to wanting something even more human than that, some sign that there’s a real person meeting you back. That’s what feels alive. It’s not about polish or perfection, it’s about allowing mutual attunement so that something unscripted can happen. The Latihan moments feel almost beyond language, and that’s what made this so sexy to me. The idea that intimacy can still be fleeting, messy, co-created, and real all at once.
Loved this! I've been dabbling in Latihan since the summer and find that it is so human and so otherworldly at the same time. Sitting in that paradox is mesmerizing and quite compelling.
I think a lot about gaining comfort with uncertainty, but it had never occurred to me to actively seek it out in this way; to crave uncertainty in a world that is performatively offering false certainty in every imaginable flavor.
The erotics of unpredictability: Maybe not the main thrust, but it hit home, so beautifully true ...
You had me at the implied intimacy and then took me on a whole journey. I'm on the lookout for some friction now ;)
I loved this Tolly. I’m fullllly in on humancore. How can real human difference and nuance and FRICTION not be rewarding and SEXY after noticing the emptiness of availability and amenability of the artificial. And Latihan sounds like the perfect metaphor for the moment. Blinded, moving cautiously, ready for connection. (Also, I’m obsessed with the “spontaneity is sexy and spiritual,” idea because yes.)
And, I found it so fascinating to think about the ideological overlap of clean girls and incels. Smart! I get it.
Loved this so much!
Great read
Thank you so much Petra!!